Samuel - Lyon, France

I'm not used to investing large sums of money in my own personal development. This is paradoxical because I know that I'm able to spend $1000s easily to go on vacation.

Firstly, I struggle to spend on myself and coaching is for myself.

I wasn't sure whether the price was worth what I would get out of it. I mean, there was no way to get to know beforehand. So there were some doubts about if I'd get a good return on investment.

And also, I wasn't sure whether I'll be able to find the time commitment to make it worth it. Yes, I did. But also I but also believe that investing money keeps me accountable, too, because it forces me to follow through. I think the more I invest financially into something, the more I feel invested, and the more I want to make it work.

During the time of coaching journaling daily, even before your input, was very helpful because it helped me to think through my days, every single day, and just get into the habit of thinking about my day through the Nice Guy recovery lens. Getting your comments was also very helpful for me too, to get someone else's perspective on the way I was viewing my Nice Guy recovery journey. And to have someone else invested in my recovery journey, really helped me to follow through and to stay committed.

I believe that had I just read the book and tried to implement it, I would have forgotten about it and it wouldn't have stayed front and center, and really impacted my life. And actually, this happens all the time. I read a book, I'm like, *Oh, this is so great. I'm gonna change my life.* And after two, three weeks it's only a vague memory. The daily journaling, the comments, and the weekly sessions all helped me to commit to this recovery journey.

The weekly sessions really helped me to stay motivated. When I felt like you saw progress in me, it helped motivate me as well and gave me hope that I could change. But I also benefited a lot from your advice. Well, for me, it was special because It was opening the marriage and dating and I got a lot of advice on dating through the Nice Guy recovery lens. It was really helpful in knowing how to reenter the dating world after having been married for 10 years.

I think I benefited from your experience and wisdom and in helping nice guys recover. You've seen the patterns and so I felt like you really understood me very early on even though you didn't really know me. Because Nice Guys are very similar, you saw the patterns and you knew how to help me grow and change.

The first benefit was that because of the daily journaling and the comments, I felt like you walked next to me throughout my journey. I didn't feel isolated in this. Even though I have some friends and family members that I could talk about it with, nobody's seeing my daily struggles and understanding my thought processes. You really entered deeply into my life and I shared myself without a filter.

Even though it only lasted two months, I felt like you really got to see how I function, how I work, and how I think. It was helpful having someone working next to me and made me feel like I was not alone. Since you could also see the situation from some distance, you were able to say, "Oh, maybe you should go next. You should go left or right. Be careful about this or that."

The second benefit was that reiterating the words and concepts in No More Mr. Nice guy over the course of a few weeks with you really started to integrate their meaning in my life. Just by discussing the concept like Covert Contracts daily, their meaning became much more clear and applicable to my life.

The third benefit is very personal to my situation: you helped me navigate my marriage through the opening and also helped me navigate re-entering the dating world. You were there at the exact moment I needed some advice from another guy with more experience. Even though it's kind of a side benefit from the Nice Guy recovery journey, I really benefited from your advice concerning my marriage and dating life.

If Nice Guy Syndrome is causing someone pain, trouble, stress, and issues in their life, I would really recommend them working with you. The investments - both financial and time -were worth it. I even had some doubts at the beginning and hesitated a little, but give it a try for at least for one month and you'll see how helpful it can be.

I believe that trying to solve this by oneself is much harder, and takes way longer. You told me at the beginning that I could try it by myself and it may take longer and have some not-so-great results and I believe that you're right. I believe that had I done this by myself the past two months, I would have forgotten about the Nice Guy thing and I don't think I would have made much progress in that regard.

It really helps to stay focused not until you believe you don't need this anymore, but until you believe you're strung enough that you can start to apply these principles by yourself. Clearly, I wasn't there two months ago. Now I feel much stronger to continue on my own.

I'd like to say that there is hope for any guy to change. By doing the work, by being committed, by being diligent there's a lot of hope. But I also believe that changing by oneself is very hard, sometimes almost impossible. I've tried to change by myself, over many years, and I struggled. I believe that I've made more progress with you in two months than I may have made alone in a few years. Working with you is really a way to boost and accelerate the change process.

I'd also like to say to anyone who is hesitant: We all spend the amount of money we could be spending on coaching on other things that bring less value to our lives. lf you ask yourself how important this is to you and you decide that you're not willing to commit the time and money, well, maybe it just isn't that important for you. But it was for me because this was a very important issue in my life. It's a no-brainer. I have no regrets and am very happy to have committed.