Andy J, Greenville, SC

What's the obstacle that would have prevented you from investing in coaching?

I struggled with the cost of coaching, but my major concern was that I wouldn’t find the right coach for me. I found you online and took a leap of faith that it was going to work.

What did you find as a result of investing in coaching with me?

I went in hoping to learn more about myself and the actions that I was taking to cause strain in my marriage. I got much more out of it than that in so many other areas of my life.

My marriage was almost over and we didn’t know how to fix it. Before we ended it, I wanted to know if I was causing the problems in my marriage and if there was something I could correct before throwing in the towel. I learned that my people pleasing behaviors were causing problems in my marriage and I learned what it means to lead a family.

That learning spilled over into other relationships in my life. I stopped letting other people take advantage of my time. I learned that part of what was making me miserable was my tendency to overcommit myself instead of standing up for myself.

My job was brutal, soul-sucking, and not a good fit for me. Through Jason’s coaching, I found another job that’s a better fit for me, higher paying, and makes me a thousand times happier.

What specific feature did you like most about my coaching process?

I like that you always challenged my thought process, whether you agreed with it or not. You constantly questioned how I came to a conclusion or what another path would look like.

You stumped me a lot and showed me possibilities I hadn’t considered. It helped to reframe the bookends in my decision-making process and even some of the ideas that sounded to extreme ended up being closer to what I needed to do.

What were three other benefits from working with me?

A main benefit to working with you was that I felt I could be completely honest with you about anything and everything and not feel any level of judgment at all. I’ve never had that in my life. There are very few people that I feel I could be completely honest with and I don’t think any of them would be completely objective about what I’m telling them or withhold judgment.

I hadn’t thought of that, coming in to coaching. One of the things that came out of our time together is that I started being way more honest with people. I would pull back a little bit out of fear of how they might react to it and now that’s much, much less of a concern.

Being able to talk to Jason about a concern that I didn’t know how to handle helped me when I was blinded emotionally on what to do. It helped me check my thought process when I ran into problems and over time I was able to get to the point where I could effectively handle and manage every problem I came across. Stress will always be there, but now I have the tools to manage the stress, which was huge for me.

Would you recommend someone else work with me? Why?

I would, without a doubt, no hesitation, recommend someone, anyone, to work with you, for sure. They will get so much more out of it than they expect - which was definitely the case for me.

I went in concerned that I wouldn’t get enough value out of coaching to justify the cost or the time investment. I would tell anybody who is reading this, if you’re willing to put in the effort and the work, it will be life changing.

I never believed in coaching or therapy and this experience completely changed my mind on that. You don’t know what you don’t know and talking to people who can help you down the path is unbelievably valuable.

This was life changing for me and that’s not an exaggeration by any stretch. We went from discussing divorce to happily married.

Is there anything else you'd like to add?

To understand what my people-pleasing behavior and to be able to counter that has definitely helped me be more productive. You also introduced the time management matrix to me, which I still use a gazillion times a day to prioritize task and things. You always challenged me to prioritize tasks correctly and do the things that were important to keep moving forward. That still continues to be a challenge for me, but I can now tell when I’m starting to get out of sync with my long-term goals and bring it back on track. Before coaching, I let other people dictate what I spent my time doing, whether it was at home or at work. I didn’t consider whether what I was doing was actually valid for me and my goals, but just this week I’ve turned down a couple of meetings because they wouldn’t get me closer to my work goals. I appreciate everything Jason did for me.